Is it a sex blog? A mommy blog? A bitch & moan blog? Um, . . . yeah. This is my place to be totally honest. In my real life, I feel like I'm always lying to somebody about something. Here, I am totally honest. Brutally so. However, no matter what bad things I say about my kids, I adore them and would never ever really, say, sell them on Ebay. The husband, often referred to as Spousehole, is another story. Oh yeah - if you are under 18 (or if you are my husband), please leave now.

Sunday, December 23, 2007

We Came Through It Alive

Spousehole and I survived fake Christmas with his family. We arrived home this afternoon with a mommyvan full of gifts. In fact, so many gifts that we couldn't fit the kids in! We left the kids with Grandma and Grandpa and will get them back tomorrow. The grandparents are returning to their winter home in Florida on Thursday, so they wanted a little more time with the little people.

The kids had a blast, mostly. I say mostly because there was a vomiting incident with the Boy and the Girl and her 3-year-old cousin were horribly traumatized at having to be separated when cousin went home to Metro Detroit with her parents. We practically had to have them surgically separated. They adore and hate one another - with no in-between. It's a very emotionally volatile relationship. They get along great, until one touches the other's toy, then there's a "MINE!!!!" battle. Cousin is only 2 months older than Girl, but outweighs her by 12-15 pounds, so things can get a little hairy when they fight. Girl does a pretty good job holding her own, despite the weight difference. I hate to see them fight, but am kind of proud of how well Girl defends herself. I am such a hypocrite.

Spousehole and I fought in front of everyone, so maybe that will help them understand when we finally tell them we are separating. IDK. I did have a "this is so hard" (sob!) moment when Spousehole and I were alone. He held me and said it was going to be okay. Not sure what that meant, exactly, but it was nice in the moment. Between rum balls and SoCo and Diet Coke, I stayed pretty well toasted most of the time. I even ate rum balls for breakfast this morning. Spousehole's sister kept saying things like "I don't know how you put up with him" and "I still can't believe my brother got someone to marry him" and it was a struggle to tell her that I'm not putting up with him much longer. I will actually miss some of Spousehole's family. Oh well.

We did some last-minute shopping. Toys 'R Us wasn't bad at all, the mall wasn't too bad either. But the fact that the national weather service was telling people to just stay home due to the ice, snow, and wind probably helped that. We went to a movie at the cheap movies ($3.50 all shows, except I have a discount card from a radio station that gets us $1.00 off, so we only pay $5.00 for both of us to see a movie!) and saw American Gangster. It was very good. Russell Crowe was scruffily gorgeous and Denzel was hot as ever. Oh, and the acting was good too. Josh Brolin really should get a Supporting Actor nod for his portrayal of a sleazy cop. He just oozed slime.

I'll probably be back on here tomorrow, bitching and moaning about something. I may even blog on Christmas Day. If I need to withdraw from the family drama at my mom's house, I often retreat to her office (and mailing center - it is packed with boxes, packing material, photography stuff, and scales, etc. because my parents are antique dealers and sell a ton and a half on Ebay). I log onto her 'puter and surf away my troubles - lol. There's a baby gate on the door to the office to keep children and pets out, so I get a break from everybody.

21 comments:

terry said...

glad you survived. and it's nice that you and he can still have some tender, caring moments.

it IS hard. you'll get through it, though.

Charlie said...

im sorry i havent been around more but im glad you made it through your 'fake' christmas. I hope the rest of this week go as well and lots of happy-as-they-can-be seasons greetings to you x

not2shy said...

I hope you survive the rest of the week as well as you have been.

Do you have to lose contact with all of his family when you split? Maybe his sister would like to remain your friend, too.

Zoely said...

hey doll...having my last XM with future ex-husband's family too. all i wanted was to DRINK. but i didn't. the hard part was knowing i wouldn't be hanging with my SIL & BIL anymore...they are really kewl. ah well. next year will be merrier, yes?
i'll prolly be around on XM & XM eve too if you want to talk.
{{muah}}

Edtime Stories said...

I wish you some joy in the holiday...family is always difficult. Keep being you is all you can do. And of course drinking SoCo.

Sue said...

Glad it went fairly well.

That is one thing I'm thankful for, we never went through tense a tense holiday season. The ex and I split in mid-July and the divorce was final by December 10th because he pushed it through and wanted it done. I agreed and the judge granted it since we were in agreement.

Merry Christmas Bunny. If you need a timeout, definitely take it.

*hugs*

ZigZagMan said...

Congrats on surviving..:) We made it through ours as well....:)

JeannieGrrl said...

I don't know why but this post has me near to tears darlin'. Hang in there, OK?

Slick said...

Kids relationships are funny like that...

One minute they're all happy and the next, they're beating each other with a wiffle ball bat.

It's crazy.

Poppin' in to wish you and yours a Merry Christmas, Bunny!

Naughty K said...

Yeah... you survived! I hope that you have a merry "Real" Christmas and that you get a bit of time for yourself.

George said...

Happy Christmas Bunny ... surviving in-laws is half the battle and it sounds like you did well. It also sounds like there is a solid piece of ground for the split in their eyes.

Be well

Lady in red said...

glad you got through the fake christmas hope the real one goes ok too.

hugs

LiR

exile said...

i hate to say it, but really, you're acctually doing everyone a favor splitting up instead of staying together.

when you do the "fake-happy" it's akward for everyone, because everyone has to pretend that the fake happy is real.

(your first solo x-mas will be very different, but far less stress)

Polt said...

Well, glad to know you made it through that and lived to tell the tale. :)

Best of luck tomorrow, sweetie.

Merry Christmas.

The Silent Male said...

Sounds like Sister in Law already suspects something and it also sounds like she would support you wanting to be free. Well, I could hope that is the case and that she becomes a good supporter for you.

Valyna said...

Staying toasted is the best way to deal with family bullshit. Believe me, I have plenty of my own to deal with as well :/

Best to you with the new year darlin. I hope you find your happiness...

xoxox
Merry Christmas

Zoely said...

p.s. i made your pretzels! they were well received!

sarah jones said...

glad to see someone else has a fake christmas too!

craig andrew said...

Fortunately, being the single guy with no responsibilities, I can enjoy Christmas eve as I sit and watch three families that hate each other pretend to get along. Unfortunately, it has become as predictable and choreographed as "Groundhog Day".

Have a happy new year!! C:)

Vixen said...

I'm glad you survived. I'm sure it was hard to 'pretend'. I did that for over three years, but most specifically the last year. Things had been going crashing for years but AH refused to share with them anything, so when we did finally separate it was a HUGE surprise and hit to them. It made it harder.

*hugs*

I'm LOL at your daughter. Go her! :)

ATLLG said...

Good for you. You can breath again now.