Is it a sex blog? A mommy blog? A bitch & moan blog? Um, . . . yeah. This is my place to be totally honest. In my real life, I feel like I'm always lying to somebody about something. Here, I am totally honest. Brutally so. However, no matter what bad things I say about my kids, I adore them and would never ever really, say, sell them on Ebay. The husband, often referred to as Spousehole, is another story. Oh yeah - if you are under 18 (or if you are my husband), please leave now.

Friday, July 6, 2007

How Can He Not Tell?

I got home about half an hour ago. Husband was sitting on the porch reading a sailing book (he can't get enough of his @#^$# catamaran. I like boating; sailing is too much like work). He hugged and kissed me hello.

How can he not tell that I'm coming home from being fucked silly by another man? How can he kiss me and not realize that my mouth was just recently filled with another man's cum? How can he not tell just by looking at me that I let another man do things to me tonight that have never1 been done before? How can he see how relaxed I am and not recognize it as post-coital tranquility?

Or does he sense all these things and just not care?

1 Given my history, it's amazing that such a thing exists! Before you ask - no, I've not altered my position as set forth here. Yet.

29 comments:

David's Traveling said...

I think this *just* means that men are stupid morons...

no surprise really when you think of it...

The Dung Beetle said...

I'm not sure what this says about myself or you or the state of our fragile Republic, but I think that you are officially my new hero.

Yup... my hero.

JeannieGrrl said...

I don't know hun but when my man comes home a wee bit late and smiling and looking relaxed - I think to myself that maybe he did just go through something similar and if so I change the subject in my own head because I know that I can't give him all that he needs and I only hope that wherever he might get it (I don't think he is really but I wouldn't be really mad either) - he won't leave me...

jsull28fl@yaho said...

we are stupid morons
but if I truely believed that my bride was getting some on the side I would be ok with that because that would be a lifetime "get outta jail free card" for me!
I followed the links
I nearly threw up
from laughing!
countless guys have told a similar story
js

craig andrew said...

Maybe he just wants you to be happy?

I have these friends who are both professionals, who work their asses off... which means she has to work a little harder than he does; being a mans world and all. He is unhappy with their sex life and she keeps telling him to find a mistress, but he won't.. and it's driving her nuts. I have asked him why he doesn't find one and he squirms as he obviously makes up the excuse that she is just joking. But I have heard her say it over and over again; I have seen with my own eyes, the look on her face when she looks him square int he eye and says it like a person who really means it. I think his problem is that he grew up in a "perfect" household with Ward and June Cleaver as his parents and he can't get over the concept of this ideal marriage in order to save his own ass.

But, that is just my perspective. C:)

Anonymous said...

I think given your previous posts about spousehole, "maybe he just wants you to be happy" is exceptionally farfetched. Just saying.

He's so self-absorbed that he doesn't notice, is my guess.

Finished Last said...

I wondered the same thing,. Sometimes i think people don't see what they just don't want to see.

Bob said...

I'd comment but anything I'd write would incriminate me on this subject. Loose lips sink ships (and marriages).

Eric said...

At least you're getting laid. ;-)

ArtfulSub said...

I hope you don't alter your original position on that matter. No law that says you have to try everything. Especially things that are grotesque.

as

craig andrew said...

Anon - my point is that maybe spousehole is happy that she is taking responsibility for her own happiness and not waiting around for him to make her happy.

In our antiquated, fucked up perception of marriage and relationship, a large number of people fall into the trap of assuming their partner is responsible for their feelings. It's not true, and it should never be true. Bunny has decided to take matters into her own hands (and mouth... and pussy) and whether he knows or not (I would wager that he does) is less important than the release of pressure he feels by not having to MAKE her happy; by not having to be responsible for her feelings.

Did that make any sense? Of course I could be completely wrong, but that is a given at any time. I don't know these people from a can of beans. Just shooting from the hip is all. C:)

Dates Bubbas said...

Based on Bunny's descriptions of his controlling behavior, he knows. The bad part of this is that he's probably sacking away reasons to divorce her whether that's what she wants in the end or not.

My XBF kept a journal of all the things his ex did when she was with the kids. He was going to use it to get full custody at some point. I wouldn't put it past Spousehole to be doing the same thing. He sounds like he's that kind of vengeful ass, too.

Dates Bubbas said...

P.S. Bunny - are you sure he doesn't know about your blog?

G-Man said...

Hahahaha...
Cause he's a fucking IDIOT!!!!

Bunny said...

I'm sure he really doesn't know about anything - blog or anything else. He has an extreme temper and would not be able to not explode at me. He was quite angry with me this morning (about something stupid) and blew his top. If he knew about anything, he would have spilled it then. That's just how he rolls.

Dates Bubbas said...

Interesting - when I was living with my ex, we both would blow up about things that had nothing to do with the reality of our situation, but I know for a fact that we both held back certain things. I just held onto things until I had the *whole* story before I went ballistic.

BTW - I wouldn't be surprised if he went through your computer, e-mail accounts, etc. from time to time to make sure you're not up to anything, or better yet, not onto whatever he's up to. He's not stupid. He's just very sneaky - and dangerous.

Bunny said...

Funny you should mention that, dates bubbas. He is a computer programmer and a "certified ethical hacker" (yes, this is an actual certification). He does gvmt work, so he can get past almost anything. He told me recently that he can get into my "account" on our home network anytime he wants, since we are both "administrators" but he is a super-administrator or something (it's a unix system - I'm almost clueless). But he has also taught me well how to cover my tracks and create really good passwords. I am careful and try to not to keep too much on the system (gotta love live cds and flash drives). But thanks for the reminder to be careful.

George said...

I always felt there was a sex aroma after the act and unless you shower very well I think you would have that on you. Then if he notices that you smell really clean after a long day ... it has to be one or the other ... can anybody be that ... naive?

eric said...

Like I said earlier, at least you're getting laid. Do what you want. Ef him.

Z said...

Bunny - I suspect he underestimates you. His loss, and your gain ;)

craig andrew said...

Hi Bunny. Let me ask you (and please tell me to fuck off at anytime... I know I have a way of speaking off the top of my head that some people like, and some people don't) does Gunga Din use anger to avoid talking about things? Does he only get mad at superficial stuff and never about his feelings?

I grew up in a house where my father would try to work through issues and my mother, out of fear, became viscous and abusive to avoid the issue. And, whenever she felt vulnerable she would get mad and attack something completely inane. Needless to say, they divorced when I was young. They never confronted any issues, and thus, never resolved any issues. It was all just a game of anger to avoid appearing weak... from my perspective anyway.

I hope you have a nice day.

ZigZagMan said...

All I can say is this whole debate makes me very sad. I'm not berated you or him Bunny Lass......thats your business, but to see cheerleaders is disturbing...........:)

TUG said...

Well, you pose some good questions. I think a lot comes down to how you act. I've been in the same room with my girl and her guy after her and I had recently finished. She just didn't treat him different than normal so he never had a clue...and not just that one time either.

Dates Bubbas said...

Bunny - having good passwords does nothing except keep people who don't know you out of your machine. If he's super-admin, then the passwords are all moot.

Zigzagman - you're not alone.

Miss Lucky Mommy said...

By the way you describe spousehole, and by his actions on many occasions, I suspect that he's just way too into himself and couldn't stop long enough to get that into you. And as another commenter said, he just underestimates you in general.
This is what his pompous neglect has bought him. Not to say he deserves it,but he kinda did ask for it.

Anonymous said...

So, you're just not going to tell us what it was that you had done that you've never had done to you before? That is so wrong.

Andy

Mrs.ZigZagMan said...

*Hugs* apparently you have bigger issues then needing sex

crse said...

I feel like i really want to email you for so many reasons. Im going looking for an address.

Dates Bubbas said...

Bunny - Just thought you should know that on Unix systems Spousehole can see all of your passwords, so it doesn't matter how *good* they are. As administrator he has access to every password on the machine. In a Windows environment all you see is a line of *****s.

I agree with SM's comment in your post "My Husband Does Have Redeeming Qualities" about getting hit and not knowing what hit you. I'm afraid for you, dear.