Is it a sex blog? A mommy blog? A bitch & moan blog? Um, . . . yeah. This is my place to be totally honest. In my real life, I feel like I'm always lying to somebody about something. Here, I am totally honest. Brutally so. However, no matter what bad things I say about my kids, I adore them and would never ever really, say, sell them on Ebay. The husband, often referred to as Spousehole, is another story. Oh yeah - if you are under 18 (or if you are my husband), please leave now.

Saturday, November 24, 2007

It Got Better, Then Nose-Dived Again

Warning: Ridiculous ranting and complaining ahead. Plow through at your own risk.

After I posted last night, he decided he wanted to go to the arcade. Though "arcade" is perhaps too simplistic a term. The place we went is an entertainment center - arcade games (new and old-school), VR games, indoor go-karts, indoor bumper cars, laser tag, all kinds of stuff. In good weather they have outdoor go-karts, mini-golf, and bumper boats too. If you can't find something you like there, you aren't trying very hard.

He's the 3rd Nascar driver from the left

Spousehole mostly played fighting and shooting games while I played Galaga (I kick ass at Galaga; of course, after 25 years I suppose I better) and carnival-type games. I'm really good at Skee-Ball. I like winning a bunch of redemption tickets and then giving them to some little kid before I leave. That's fun. At Sea World last year I only played one game of Skee Ball and won a stuffed animal so big that we couldn't take it on the plane. (My in-laws drove it back the following spring).

I watched kids playing DDR. Some of those kids are really, really good. I could never keep up with them. My sister has the Nintendo version and I get confused a couple rounds into it. It's great exercise though!

After we used the allotment on our cards (they don't take quarters anymore, you have refillable cards that you scan at each game or activity), we went to dinner. It was nice and peaceful without any kids.

We even slept in the same bed for part of the night. He moved to another room partway through the night. I asked why this morning and he said that he felt "crowded." Whatever. He did snuggle with me for a couple hours this morning and that was nice.

We went out for breakfast and he was all mopey and quiet again. That's lasted all fucking day. It's depressing as hell. I hate when he drags me down with him like this and I hate that I let him.

I've tried doing what he wants - I watched LOTR: Return of the King for the umpteenth time with him - but he won't do anything I want. I have A History of Violence from Netflix and I proposed that we watch it together when LOTR was done, but no, he wasn't in the mood to watch anything "new." I HATE THAT. He will watch the same movies, and read the same books, over and over and over - to the exclusion of anything new. I don't get it at all. I have no problem with watching a good movie multiple times, but not to the exclusion of anything else. He has about 10 movies he watches over and over and about the same number of books he reads over and over, until they are worn out. Then he buys another copy of the same damn book!!! What is up with that? I know he says he has memory problems - and he does - but does he not remember what happens in Shogun after reading it 60 times???


Semi-Celibate Man said...

I can relate. Except I am you, and Mrs. SCM is Spousehole. There may as well not be a "new release" section in the video store, she's going to watch Little House on the Praire again...

Dates Bubbas said...

Don't know what to say other than when it's finally over, you won't have to do any of this anymore. It's so nice not being emotionally blackmailed - I can't even begin to describe it for you.


Lady in red said...

I am glad you had some reasonable time

Steff said...

Good grief...what a nut! There are so many great things out there if one would just try. At least you are making an effort and you're the better person for it!

Edtime Stories said...

hug babe... wished you had a better time

Blessed said...

Hey Bunny!
Thank you for stopping by my blog!

I am new here and couldn't help but chuckle of the your word
'spousehole'. Too funny, Bunny!!

I will stop by again!

Thanx again!

Sue said...

Bunny, it isn't that he doesn't remember them, those are his escape worlds.

You have given me a glimpse into the future of Paul's son. The boy would rather live in a make-believe fantasy world where Harry Potter really is his friend, than his real life.

When he was younger, he talked about Pokemon characters as if they were actually in the room with him. He's outgrown that, but he goes through periods where he will read the same books over and over and over and I truly believe that he's escaping into them at times to be the master of his own imaginary universe.

Spousehole is escaping to where he still remains larger than life and in control of everything around him.

Vixen said...

Gah....Spousehole is depressing me with his mopiness. I would get frustrated after a certain point and just be like "GET OVER YOURSELF ALREADY!"

Sorry. Venting for you.


George said...

Hang in there sweetie although it will be getting more and more difficult for you to do that as time passes. Don't feel obligated to stay until the school year finishes if it is adversely affecting you to stay. You have to take care of yourself first otherwise you won't be able to take care of the children.

What frightens me (for you) is that he hasn't expressed any anger yet and that is a normal reaction to the situation. Be wary of any sudden changes in mood.

Wish I could help more than this.

Be careful.


Michelle L. said...

I don't have any words of advice for you other than to stay strong. The two of you seem to both want to deal with this without recrimination and anger, and I think that if the split has to happen then it is best to deal with it in the most adult way possible. I respect you for hanging in there and I am sending all kinds of good vibes to you.

SeaRabbit said...

George is right... I was expecting you to go through some anger crisis of some kind... it didn't happen yet... but it will come, unless your husband is totally depressed... what could be too...
You talk about him not liking anything new... and it made me smile... in 1994, my husband didn't want to use cash machine... ROFL!

sandy shoes said...

Sounds like he's repeating movies etc. even more than usual lately as a kind of comfort mechanism.

But holy crap, what a bore.

Evening said...

I don't know what to say to you Bunny except, that I wish you well.

Polt said...

Galaga ROCKS, baby!

Sorry about the emotional rollercoaster he's got you on, though.

Go back to the arcade, find some hot young senior in high school and play DDR with him...maybe it'll lead to more? :)


Blue said...

I SO love Skeeball. I could play it for hours. Haven't seen Galaga anywhere around these parts in 50 years (and I'm only 35) LOL.

Anonymous said...

That entertainment center sounds like a lot of damn fun. I love Galaga. I'm a DDR nerd too, I ROCK at that game. I end up sweaty as hell and probably LOOKING like hell afterwards but I have fun. Skee ball is one of my favorite games still, has been since I was a wee little me. I love a lot of the games that give out tickets. I always give them to a little kid or two also. Or I just get stuffed animals and then give them away. I seriously don't need the junk but someone else will like it.

I know what you mean about the "rejecting the new" being very aggitating too. Sigh.

*Hugs* Sorry Spousehole is being a downer. Just hold your head up doll. Hang in there. ;)

The Bizza said...

Ending a marriage, no matter how amiable, is always difficult. I feel for both of you, but know that it will get better soon.