Is it a sex blog? A mommy blog? A bitch & moan blog? Um, . . . yeah. This is my place to be totally honest. In my real life, I feel like I'm always lying to somebody about something. Here, I am totally honest. Brutally so. However, no matter what bad things I say about my kids, I adore them and would never ever really, say, sell them on Ebay. The husband, often referred to as Spousehole, is another story. Oh yeah - if you are under 18 (or if you are my husband), please leave now.

Friday, January 11, 2008

So the drama . . .

Things were getting better around here. Spousehole has been in a pretty good mood and treating everyone fairly nicely. He was understanding about housework not getting done when I was sick last weekend. He was content to play his new video game obsession (Half-Life 2; thanks, Mom) and pretty much let us be.

But not any more.

I was out Wednesday night and he was in charge of the kids. Apparently Boy had a "toileting accident." His autism has made it tough for him to totally "get" potty-training. He pees in the toilet just fine, but still has problems sometimes with bowel movements. Boy was not cooperative about going upstairs to get cleaned up. Spousehole told me Thursday morning that he had spanked Boy.

Now, I'm not a big fan of spanking. But I wasn't going to have a major fit about it.

Until now. When Boy got home from school on Thursday, I was helping him in the bathroom and saw his bottom. It's bruised. Purple bruises on the surface of his tiny little bum. Not deep, can't-sit-down-comfortably bruises, but bruises nonetheless.

There's spanking and there's beating; I would classify this as beating. I was spanked a lot as a kid and I NEVER had bruises.

I warned Spousehole that if he ever hurts my son again, I will have his ass thrown out of here and get a restraining order to keep him away from me and the kids. He took that pretty well, actually. He apologized to Boy, but still made it all Boy's fault.

I've told Spousehole that he has to get some help for his anger problems. I know he's not having an easy time at work right now, but he cannot take out his anger on the children or me. He needs to learn to vent it another way. He agrees, but we'll see what happens.

In other parenting news, did you read about the little girl who was left at Chuck E. Cheese's and her family only realized she was missing when they saw her picture in the paper two days later? I can see how different people each thought the other had taken the child home, but to not notice for TWO DAYS? At least these people realized the NEXT day that they had left their child at Chuck E. Cheese.

And for REALLY bad parenting, there's the guy who threw his kids off a bridge to spite their mother and the mom who killed her four daughters and kept their bodies in the apartment to the point that the neighbors could smell them and the authorities found the girls when they came to serve an eviction notice. And the one that upset me greatly when it happened, the mother who suffocated her autistic daughter because she just couldn't handle the autism anymore. Her trial started this week.

13 comments:

ATLLG said...

OK I just made parent of the year... I emailing these stories to my kids!

ATLLG said...

OH sorry... let me know if the big person in your house needs some bruises.... I'll make sure he CAN'T sit down....

Charlie said...

lol at atllg. i have a hefty new tripod that could do some damage...

Rae said...

Um, big "yay" for atllg making that comment about beating Spousehole.

I'm not a fan of spanking either and don't believe it is necessary 99.9% of the time...but it is NEVER ok to bruise, one swat should get your point across. He just embodies that name Spousehole at the moment for me.

And this is why I can't do crim law...I would end up crying in court or beating the shit out of people for being that stupid. This is why stupid people should be sterilized. Ugh.

Trueself said...

I am feeling ever so much better about my parenting, and even W's, after reading this. At no time has he ever left bruises on N, and so far neither of us have killed him so we're actually doing pretty good sounds like. LOL

Seriously though, good for you for laying it out for him. That is definitely cause for getting him out of the childrens' lives if that's how he treats them.

sandyshoes said...

You must've felt sick when you saw those bruises on your boy. I'm glad Spousehole knows you're serious.

News stories like those you linked to -- I can't take 'em. It's intolerable.

Desmond Jones said...

Well, he seems to know that he crossed the line. But you'd want him to have a bit more of an understanding that he's dealing with an autistic child here, eh?

Yeah, maybe he should look for some help w/ his 'anger issues'. . .

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Oh, and that mom in DC who killed her four kids and left 'em to rot? Simple explanation. . . see, they had demons in 'em. Oh, now it all becomes clear; of course!

Thing is, I have no trouble believing that there were demons involved. . .

George said...

Bring on the moving date ... the sooner the better for all three of you ... tough luck for the hole.

I have less than zero tolerance for parents such as those in the news ... shoot them

Zoely said...

Huh. i really can't respond appropriately nor calmly to any of this. but wanted to let you know i came by.

Sue said...

I'm with Zoely on this one. I was here, but I have a strong opinion here and think it is best I not express it.

Chelle said...

{{{{{{{{{HUGS))))))))) I can relate to the anger thing! UGH. :(

Vixen said...

:(

*hugs*

blondenotstupid said...

For crying out loud... he should know by now that Boy just doesn't "get" the whole potty thing. I think spanking him at all was out of line considering the circumstances.

Document, document, document. This will ensure that Spousehole doesn't try to pull something later. The more you document, the better your case will be for full custody of your children and supervised visits for Spousehole.