Do not tell your wife, in the middle of an argument, that you love someone else (L.), have loved L. since before you met your wife, and will always love L., and, by the way, you never really loved your wife. Even if it's true, don't say it out loud. It's cruel and will haunt your wife forever. Even if it's not true.
If you've already said it, tell your wife it isn't true. Even if it is. Tell her that you were angry and just trying to hurt her (because you know that's true). And fucking apologize already.
Do not constantly enumerate the ways this perfect, saintly woman is better than your wife. If you do, do not be surprised if wife agrees that L. is clearly quite smart, since she had the good sense not to date, much less marry, you. Do not be surprised if wife also points out that L. almost never initiates contact with you; you are still the one chasing after her, 20 years later. Wife may also point out that L. couldn't be bothered to attend your wedding, despite you having driven 14 hours in bad weather to attend hers.
Do not treat this other woman far better than you ever treat your wife. Do not, for instance, tell your wife two weeks before Mother's Day that you got a Mother's Day card for L. because you want to honor her, as she is currently pregnant with her second child. After spewing this little tidbit, do not fail to give your wife, who just gave birth to your second child, a card (or anything at all) ,saying you just didn't think of it. She will remember, vividly, your buying a card two weeks earlier for L. and be incredibly hurt that you remembered L., but not the mother of your own children. She will be even more hurt if you fail to give her a card or gift for the next two Mother's Days, but still send a card to L. each year.
When L. emails you to say that her father (a man you met 2 or 3 times) has died and to please pray for his soul, do not take that as a urgent request to leave your wife and children (with a couple hours notice) on Mother's Day weekend to drive 9 hours to be with her. I'm guessing that, with a husband she adores, 2 children, a mother, 8 siblings, and tons of other relatives, she has plenty of people to comfort her.
I'm just saying.
5 comments:
Hrrrrrrrrrrrrrmmmmmmmmm...........sounds like a husband that needs a serious smackin" :)
HOLY CRAP!!!
Been there done that, left and don't miss it a bit. There's a huge hole in my heart for you putting up with this shit.
I followed DB here. I think I've visited once, but this time was special. That's a pretty revolting tale there Bunny. You must be conservative to stick with this 'winner'. Sure, there are lots of guys who may be in the same silly, stupid & delusional boat. (Well a few perhaps). Very, very few of them would ever dare to express this that openly or crassly. There's something seriously wrong with this lad, and nothing a serious smack down or therapy would fix all that quickly. It's just way more complicated & ugly for that. I'm truly sorry for that. Cheers, 'VJ'
Well,
The husbands need to understand the importance of their wives in their life. Couples should get everything clear among each other like their views about having children; know each other dreams, feelings and aspiration and etc. All these would help you to lead a happy marriage life.
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