Is it a sex blog? A mommy blog? A bitch & moan blog? Um, . . . yeah. This is my place to be totally honest. In my real life, I feel like I'm always lying to somebody about something. Here, I am totally honest. Brutally so. However, no matter what bad things I say about my kids, I adore them and would never ever really, say, sell them on Ebay. The husband, often referred to as Spousehole, is another story. Oh yeah - if you are under 18 (or if you are my husband), please leave now.

Tuesday, July 1, 2008

TMI Tuesday!

1. Do you believe in marriage?

Yes. I think it can be a wonderful thing if properly nurtured.

2. What is marriage to you?

To me marriage should be a journey together. It is supporting one another through thick and thin, co-parenting if that's the choice a couple makes, rejoicing in the good times and being there for one another in the bad. Becoming a whole that is greater than the sum of its parts.

Do I have that? No, but that's the goal. I hope and pray that someday it's what my marriage becomes.

3. If you are married, why did you do it? If you are not, why have you not married?

I got married mostly because I was in love, in part because it seemed like I should just do it already (I was 31)

4. Do you believe in divorce?

Yes, there are definitely times when divorce is an absolute necessity. I do not think it is something that should undertaken lightly, particularly when there are children involved.

5. If you are divorced, why did you do it? If you have not, are there certain circumstances under which you would agree to a divorce?

I have come very, very close to divorcing Spousehole. Part of my agreeing to move 1100 miles with him is that we have to both work on our marriage (even he agrees that I have been the only one putting in any effort to change).

Bonus (as in optional): [ed note:I am not trying to spark a get political debate, I am much to superficial for that]Do you believe that same sex marriages are a threat to traditional marriages?

Not in the slightest. The only threat to "traditional" marriage is the two people in the marriage.


Weekends Off said...

I couldn't agree with your bonus answer more!

SeaRabbit said...

Great answers!!!
Happy TMI!

Aunty Belle said...

Youse movin' to Charleston?? Hoo-whee! I'se expectin' an invitation to visit!! Lucky you. Invest now in How to Speak Southern.

On the bonus question--ya'll knows I'se a dad-blasted cranky contrarian.

'Fraid I'd have ter say that same -sex unions is a threat cause it makes the concept "marriage" so elastic that it doan have no special meanin' no more--that leads causal attitudes about the marriage in general.

(ain't sayin' nuthin about consentin' adults making choices...jes' sayin' that they cain't claim it is same thang as "marriage.")

Flyinfox_SATX said...

Happy TMI! Loved your answers. Yes I can definitely see your point of view.


Vixen said...

Good answers Bunny. I think that is really good that Spousehole has admitted to make little to no effort and is wanting to work on it with you. *hugs*


sandy shoes said...

I can never understand why people think same-sex marriage is "threatening". To what?

And I'm sorry, but saying it "leads causal (sic) attitudes about the marriage in general" (?!) is just plain insulting. You think those eighty-something year-old ladies in San Francisco who were just finally allowed to marry after decades together have a casual attitude? Please.

Sigh... bigotry is everywhere.

Anyway: Best, best of luck working on the marriage, Bunny. Your bloggy friends are here for ya.

Madame X said...

Great answers!!! Happy Tuesday!

Ms. Inconspicuous said...

I do hope that things work out (in whatever way ends up being best) for you and your husband.

Happy TMI.

Stephen Rader said...

"Not in the slightest. The only threat to "traditional" marriage is the two people in the marriage."

Amen, sister!! Amen!!

Great answers. And thank you for your comment on my TMI Tuesday post. I hope I find "him" soon too. :)

The Troll said...

Interesting answers. Better than usual questions. I've never heard anyone actually say that their reason for being against State-Sponsored-Gay-Marriage is that they see it as a threat to their own hetero marriage.

Kind of a red herring.

I'm against it cause it would cost a zillion dollars and would be one more thing for the Government to get involved in and fuck up.

Desmond Jones said...

Well, of course, marriage is about quite a bit more than just the two spouses. . .

For one thing, there are the children they generate. Which also involves a larger social good of connecting parents - specifically, fathers - to their children. Which, when you get right down to it, is the reason for such a thing as marriage in the first place. Otherwise, why bother? I mean, marriage is an awful lot of trouble to go to just for the sake of providing legal 'sanction' for your sex life. . .

Our society tends to conceive of life in pretty much exclusively individualistic terms, and viewed individualistically, marriage really doesn't make much sense, because it is, by the nature of it, a socially-connected thing.

There is a sense in which the strength of every marriage strengthens every other marriage, and the weakness of every marriage weakens every other marriage. Every marriage that fails is one less pillar of support for other couples to hang together. And when half of all marriages fail, even the half that don't, are weakened and stressed accordingly.

Which, I admit, is getting a bit far afield of the question of 'gay marriage', but my major point is only that marriage isn't just about the two spouses. . .

And, for the record, I think that easy divorce is a MUCH greater threat to the institution of marriage than anything homosexuals will do. . .