The Rules of Cunnilingus

I didn't make the rules, I just read 'em and recommend 'em. And I definitely recommend Sylvanus and Mina's Rules of Cunnilingus. Check it out. After you've read it, you may come back and read my comments, if you are interested:

1. Unlike Mina, I like hard, direct stimulation of my clitoris with your tongue. Just something to keep in mind. Put your fingers wherever you would like, I'll enjoy that. But the direct stimulation with the tongue is vital - licking, flicking, sucking: all good, just don't be gentle about it. See how we can all be so different?

2. Amen, brother!

3. For me (and this may be just me), let's take a shower together first. I just feel better about the whole thing if our foreplay includes a shower. I feel cleaner and am more open to having you "down there." But that may just be me. And maybe having soapy, slippery hands sliding all over me is just a great warm-up for me.

Also I would reiterate what Sylvanus said:

The more you make her feel like licking her is an eagerly-awaited privilege, and the less like a necessary pit stop before you can plug her with your cock, the better it will make her feel. But, by now, this is probably obvious to you.

But something guys forget: women are often very verbal. Talk to her! Tell her what you are thinking, how she looks. Use words and engage her brain.

4. Sylvanus is right - I'll tell you what I want at this point. Usually I'm going to want you to kiss me - hard - and I'll probably want you inside me, but maybe not. I'll let you know what, when and where, though feel free to share what you want as well. Thanks for listening. Again, Sylvanus' wise words:

And, for the love of God, please, do not ever, after giving oral say any of the following:

• “You sure take a long time.” Hey, you spent all day trying to play with her pussy, now you’re upset when you get to do it?
• “What did you eat?” As soon as your semen tastes like a Frosty, you can lecture her on how she tastes.
• “Your turn!” (or "My turn!")
  

I've heard the "You sure take a long time" thing before. Makes you never want to have your man go there again, like it's just too much damn work. I'll get defensive and likely respond with "Well if you had a clue what you were doing . . . " and it will just deteriorate from there and you'll NEVER get yours :-) So even if it took "too long," don't say so.

Now go back to At Longing's End and thank Sylvanus and Mina for these wonderful lessons!

Okay, now let's practice!