Head Games

Spousehole got me up early this morning, an hour before my alarm goes off (though I am always up before the alarm goes off anyway). He was screaming at me about having his checkbook, so I showed him that it was right where he left it. Not content to let me be, he then decided to rant and rave at me about spending his money without permission. I was able to demonstrate that every penny I have spent since "budget day" was budgeted and I haven't taken any money from our joint account since the budget withdrawal. Since he couldn't be left having to apologize for dragging me out of bed and yelling at me for no reason, he brought up old issues that should have been laid to rest YEARS ago. All so he could justify being an ass.

I soon found out that this was only the beginning of day's shenanigans. You see, the ring games continue.

He wore his last Friday for his interview, but by Sunday morning it was gone again. I've stopped worrying about it. It is what it is. He uses wearing his ring or not to try to hurt me and I'm done playing that game.

I took mine off in the shower earlier this week, as it tends to come off when my hands are soapy. It's just a bit loose. I put it on the top of the tub enclosure where the children can't see it and can't reach it. Then I forgot to put it back on after my shower. The next couple days I saw it while I was showering, but still forgot to put it back on after I dried off. This morning I planned to make a point of putting it back on after my shower. I didn't take it off as any kind of statement, I just neglected to put it back on for a couple days. I knew where it was and was not concerned about it.

Problem was, when I got to the shower this morning, before the ass crack of dawn since I was up anyway, the ring was gone. I had no real doubt that Spousehole had done something with it. He has done that before. Takes things of mine and withholds them as "punishment" for not putting them away, as if I were a child who leaves her toys out in the rain. For instance, if I leave a watch in the bathroom, he'll take it and say "watches don't belong in the bathroom, do they?" when I either find it or cajole him into returning it to me.

I had to call him about something else and when that was done, I asked him to tell me the whereabouts of my ring. He was silent for a moment, then said he didn't know and asked where I saw it last. I played along and told him where it had been and he claimed he never saw it there. Pointed out that he doesn't wear his glasses in the shower, so he wouldn't be able to see an itty-bitty ring up there. Right. I am way more nearsighted than him and could see it just fine without my glasses or contacts, so I know he's bull-shitting me. That and the silence before he answered. He's a shitty liar.

Later in the day, he emailed me for a password for an account, accusing me of changing the password without telling him. I emailed back with the (unchanged) password and asked if he would now tell me if he had my ring. He never replied.

When he came home, he wanted to know what was for dinner. I said I didn't have time to make dinner because I spent all day looking for my ring (yes, I lied). I asked him to please just tell me if he had it so I wouldn't have to worry about it. He said once again that he didn't have it. I was almost starting to think perhaps he was telling the truth.

He went to bed about 1/2 an hour ago. I checked his coat pockets: no ring. Laptop case: no ring. Backpack: no ring. Maybe he was telling the truth.

One more place - wallet: JACKPOT!

That lying motherfucking son of a bitch. Initially I took both rings, but I put his back in there. I won't stoop to his level.