Unconscious Mutterings - come play with us!
We have internet at home now!! It's a miracle! The installation dude was late, of course, but did eventually show up. Woo hoo! Spousehole decided not to get cable TV with it, but that's a battle I'm content to fight at a later date. I'm back online!!!
I thought I would ease back into things with a meme, stolen from my friend Ed. Hopefully this sort of covers me also for the meme tag that I owe my friend Joe from a couple months ago (sorry Joe!!). That was a "random things" meme and this covers a bunch a random stuff. If it's not sufficient, Joe, let me know. :-)
Things in Italics are true.
Appearance:
- I am 5′4 or shorter (Five-foot two with eyes of blue)
- I think I’m ugly.
- I have many scars.
- I tan easily.
- I wish my hair was a different color.
- I have friends who have never seen my natural hair color.
- I have a tattoo.
- I am self-conscious about my appearance.
- I have/I’ve had braces.
- I wear glasses (or contacts).
- I’d get/have gotten plastic surgery if it were 100% safe, free, scar-free.
- I’ve been told I’m attractive by a complete stranger.
- I have had more than 2 piercings.
- I have had piercings in places besides my ears.
- I have freckles.
Family/Home Life:
- I’ve sworn at my parents.
- I’ve run away from home.
- I’ve been kicked out of the house.
- My biological parents are together.
- I have a sibling less than one year old.
- I want to have kids someday.
- I have children.
- I’ve lost a child.
Embarrassment:
- I’ve slipped out a “LOL” in a spoken conversation.
- Disney movies still make me cry.
- I’ve snorted while laughing.
- I’ve laughed so hard I’ve cried.
- I’ve glued my hand to something.
- I’ve laughed till some kind of beverage came out of my nose.
- I’ve had my trousers rip in public.
Health:
- I was born with a disease/impairment.
- I’ve had stitches.
- I’ve broken a bone.
- I’ve had my tonsils removed (adenoids, yes; tonsils, no)
- I’ve sat in a doctor’s office with a friend.
- I’ve had my wisdom teeth removed.
- I’ve had serious surgery (I don't count my adenoidectomy, c-sections, ovarian cyst removal, D&C, and numerous dermatological in-office surgeries as "serious.")
- I’ve had chicken pox.
Traveling:
- I’ve driven over 200 miles in one day (quite recently, in fact)
- I’ve been on a plane.
- I’ve been to Canada.
- I’ve been to Niagara Falls.
- I’ve been to Japan.
- I’ve been to Europe.
- I’ve been to Africa.
Experiences:
- I’ve been lost in my city. (this is a pretty common experience for me lately!)
- I’ve seen a shooting star.
- I’ve wished on a shooting star.
- I’ve seen a meteor shower.
- I’ve gone out in public in my pajamas. (If public includes the sidewalk outside my house, I do this almost every weekday, waiting with Boy for his 7:00 a.m. schoolbus)
- I’ve pushed all the buttons in a lift.
- I’ve been to a casino.
- I’ve been skydiving.
- I’ve gone skinny dipping.
- I’ve played spin the bottle.
- I’ve crashed a car.
- I’ve been skiing (snow, downhill and cross-country)
- I’ve been in a play.
- I’ve met someone in person from the Internet.
- I’ve caught a snowflake on my tongue.
- I’ve seen the Northern Lights.
- I’ve sat on a roof top at night.
- I’ve played chicken.
- I’ve seen the Rocky Horror Picture Show.
- I’ve eaten Sushi.
- I’ve been snowboarding.
Relationships:
- I’m single.
- I’m in a relationship (marriage is a relationship, right?).
- I’m available (sort of . . . ).
- I’m engaged
- I’m married.
- I’ve gone on a blind date.
- I’ve been the dumpee more than the dumper.
- I have a fear of abandonment.
- I’ve been divorced.
- I’ve had feelings for someone who didn’t have them back.
- I’ve told someone I loved them when I didn’t.
- I’ve told someone I didn’t love them when I did.
- I’ve kept something from a past relationship.
Sexuality:
- I’ve had a crush on someone of the same gender.
- I’ve kissed a member of the same gender.
- I’ve had sex with someone of the opposite gender.
- I’ve had sex with someone of the same gender.
- I’ve had sex with more than one person at the same time.
- I am a cuddler.
- I’ve been kissed in the rain.
- I’ve had sex outdoors.
- I’ve hugged a stranger.
- I have kissed a stranger.
- I have had sex with a stranger (I've generally exchanged at least first names before things get that far).
Honesty/Crime:
- I’ve done something I promised someone else I wouldn’t.
- I’ve done something I promised myself I wouldn’t.
- I have lied to my parents about where I am (I have also lied to my husband about where I am).
- I am keeping a secret from the world.
- I’ve cheated while playing a game.
- I’ve cheated on a test.
- I’ve driven through a red light
- I’ve witnessed a crime.
- I’ve been in a fist fight.
- I’ve been arrested.
- I’ve shoplifted.
Drugs/Alcohol:
- I’ve consumed alcohol.
- I smoke cigarettes.
- I smoke pot.
- I regularly drink.
- I’ve taken painkillers when I didn’t need them.
- I’ve taken cough medicine when i wasn’t sick.
- I’ve done hard drugs.
- I’ve been addicted to an illegal substance.
- I can’t swallow pills.
- I can swallow about 5 pills at a time no problem (more actually)
Mental health:
- I have been diagnosed with depression.
- I shut others out when I’m depressed.
- I take anti-depressants.
- I have had an eating disorder.
- I’ve slept an entire day when I didn’t need it.
- I’ve hurt myself on purpose.
- I’m addicted to self harm.
- I’ve woken up crying.
Death:
- I’m afraid of dying.
- I hate funerals.
- I’ve seen someone dying.
- I have attempted suicide.
- Someone close to me has attempted suicide.
- Someone close to me has committed suicide.
Random:
- I can sing well.
- I’ve stolen a tray from a fast food restaurant.
- I open up to others too easily.
- I watch the news (or would if we had cable TV; I listen to the news on the radio though).
- I don’t kill bugs.
- I hate hearing songs that sacrifice meaning for sake of being able to rhyme.
- I swear regularly.
- I am a morning person (it didn't come naturally - I've been forced into it and now wake up early even I don't want to and get more things done in the morning than the rest of the day)
- I paid for my mobile phone ring tone.
- I’m a snob about grammar.
- I am a sports fanatic.
- I play with my hair.
- I have/had “x”s in my screen name.
- I love being neat.
- I love Spam (Spam Lite actually - so much better than regular Spam!).
- I’ve copied more than 30 CD’s in a day.
- I bake well.
- I don’t know how to shoot a gun.
- I am in love with love.
- I am guilty of tYpInG lIkE tHiS.
- I laugh at my own jokes.
- I eat fast food weekly.
- I believe in ghosts.
- I am online 24/7, even as an away message.
- I can’t sleep if there is a spider in the room.
- I am really ticklish.
- I love white chocolate.
- I bite my nails.
- I play video games.
- I’m good at remembering faces.
- I’m good at remembering names.
- I’m good at remembering dates.
- I have no idea what I want to do for the rest of my life.
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Unconscious Mutterings - come play with us!
1.) What material is your favorite for bed sheets?
Cotton, minimum 300 thread count (preferably even higher)
2.) How often do you masturbate?
Lately, about once a week. It's not easy with little kids hanging all over me most all the time. Also I just haven't been feeling terribly interested. Summer heat + kids + no co-parent present + trying to keep the house "showable" for potential buyers = not horny Bunny. Anyone want to help with this situation?
3.) What takes you the longest to do while showering? (IE shaving, washing hair, etc)
Shaving, definitely. Even just doing the lower legs and pits takes some time. Though I suppose overall conditioning my hair lasts the longest, but I put the conditioner on and then take care of things like shaving, so I'm not really doing anything while the conditioner sits there. And in this heat and humidity lately the conditioner is almost worthless. I have the crazy curly frizzy hair by 10:00 a.m. no matter what.
4.) What do you think is the right amount of foreplay? Do you spend enough time readying your partner for sex?
Depends on the situation. Sometimes hours and hours, sometimes very little. On the second question, depends on the partner. If we're talking PiC, he's generally good to go as soon as I arrive. Anticipation and all. Spousehole, it take a lot of time to cajole seduce him into thinking that sex is a good idea. In fact, I've already started on him for my upcoming trip to S.C. (I leave Friday)
5.) Who tends to initiate sex more when you are in a relationship?
With Spousehole, it's all me in the last 7 years or so. The first 2-3 years we were together it was pretty equal, but then Spousehole's interest in sex decreased significantly and it's been all me ever since.
6.) What birth control do you use?
Vasectomy. Spousehole and PiC. If I were to hook up with someone not "fixed" or about whom I had STD concerns, condoms.
7.) What is one thing your partner could do in bed that would instantly turn you off?
Call me by someone else's name. Or pass gas and hold me under the covers (see yesterday's TMI - BTW, I HATE the "f" word, so yesterday's TMI was really difficult for me. "Pass gas" "toot" "poot" are better, in my opinion. I don't let my kids say the "f" word. I swear like a sailor, but that word just irks me.)
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I mentioned in my answers that I'm going to S.C. on Friday. I leave at the ass crack of dawn Friday. I have a 6:00 a.m. flight - with construction at the local airport and security stuff they recommend I be there at 4:30 a.m. at the latest. That is way too early. My seatmates better not be chatty or I might kill them. The first flight is just a short hop to a hub airport. Then I get to sit in DTW for 2 flippin' hours before my next flight leaves for S.C. My main concern is that I will fall asleep in the airport and miss my connecting flight. But these stupid waits between flights are the price one pays for a round-trip fare as low as I got for this trip. So long as NWA can keep their shit together, I'll get to S.C. before noon.
I don't come back until Wednesday next, so I may not post after tomorrow until next Wednesday. We'll see. Depends on if I can get some "alone time" with Spousehole's computer. He will be going to work on either Monday or Tuesday to give me a chance to explore the city on my own, so I may get a chance to check in then.
Unconscious Mutterings, The Free Association Meme
The beautiful and sexy Vixen tagged me for the latest meme making the rounds. Here goes!
1. What was I doing ten years ago?
Still practicing law, dating the future Spousehole (he moved into my house in July 1998), living in my first house with three cats, a dog, and two houserabbits.
2. What are five things on my list to do today?
3. Snacks I enjoy?
Oranges, ice cream, and Berry Blast (Sour!!!) Gushers. Those damn Gusher things are addictive. I only like the sour ones though.
4. Things I Would Do If I Were A Billionaire?
Buy my mother a new car so she can stop bitching about her old one (she drives a car she bought new in 1994 and has only put 60,000 miles on it so she doesn't want to replace it yet but she hates it; but then again, she'll find something to bitch about on the new car); set up educational and general trust funds for my children and my nephew; support my sister and nephew while she finishes her schooling; move to South Carolina immediately so my kids can be with their Dad again. Long term, I would set up a charitable foundation and running it would be my day job. I would support charities that help children and animals and fight to keep abortion safe and legal, but RARE by promoting easy access to and use of birth control; I would fund domestic violence shelters and organizations that provide legal assistance to abused spouses (of either gender) and children; I would provide funding to open more Justice for Our Neighbors clinics around the country; I would also have a separate organization to invest in and support entrepreneurship.
5. Three of my bad habits?
6. Five places I have lived?
7. Five jobs I’ve had?
8. How did you name your blog?
I typed the letters into the box provided. Duh.
Oh, you mean how did I come up with the name? I've always been a little fixated on rabbits, real rabbits and realistic artistic representations of rabbits and my nickname for many years (as an adult, no less) was Bunny. Several years ago I was goofing around with a Brit friend of Spousehole's family, flirting wildly as I am wont to do, and he said "Well, you're just a randy little rabbit, aren't you?" The phrase stuck in my mind, so I made up the 'net moniker Randi Rabbit and since I sometimes feel my world is a strange place rather like Alice fell into, "Down the Rabbit Hole" just seemed fitting. (I wasn't even thinking of "The Matrix" when I chose the name, but that's kind of fitting too).
I’m supposed to tag 5-6 people now. I always have trouble deciding who to tag and usually find out subsequently that my taggees have already done the meme. I'll give it a shot anywhoo.
Truth: (I know, I did Truth last week too. It's kind of hard to do dares with kids hanging around!)
What is one thing you want your lover to do? It can be something a) he/she won't do b) hasn't ever done or c) used to do but hasn't in a while. And yes, we're talking about sex here, not doing the dishes or mowing the grass.. or doing the dishes and/or mowing the grass as foreplay... you get the idea.
We'll assume we're talking about my husband here. First of all, I would like to just have a regular, frequent sex life with him! That's often what this blog is about - me complaining about the lack of sex in my marriage (in addition to other problems). My husband and I have not had sex, have not had any sexual contact (with each other) whatsoever since May 6, 2007, more than one year ago.
For something he's never done that I really, really want him to do: oral sex, giving and receiving. He will occasionally let me suck him, but not for long and he's never come in my mouth. He claims he just doesn't enjoy it. I thought I must have totally forgotten how and was really, really hurt. But PiC has no complaints, so I'm thinking now it's him and not me. He has never, ever, not once gone down on me, despite knowing how much I want him to do so. He was brought up to believe that it is wrong and dirty and unsanitary and that nice people just don't do that. Do you know what it's like to go nearly 10 years without? It's not fun. Perhaps if I had never experienced it and didn't know what I was missing, it wouldn't be so bad. But since I DO know what I'm missing, it really bites.
TMI and it's not even Tuesday!
Unconscious Mutterings, the Free Association meme
New pictures, but kind of same old-same old anyway. My creative mojo has disappeared lately. Hopefully it will return soon.
The bruise in the click-thru? I have no idea where that came from. Seriously. If you have any ideas, let me know.
I have been a bad, bad blogger. I have failed to answer three (3!) tags!! I'm going to blogger hell for sure. Since two were the same meme, I'll just do it twice.
First, the incomparable Gretty tagged me for the Fill in the Blank meme:
1. I can’t believe I’ve never…
traveled outside of North America (I'm including the Caribbean as part of North America, whether it is or not)
2. Every time I think about … I still cringe.
all the embarassing things I did in college
3. I wish I’d …when I had the chance.
made a different career choice
4. I’ve never felt so out of place as when I…
started attending church again in my 30s
5. … is my guiltiest pleasure.
Sex with men other than my husband
6. I hope … know(s) how grateful I am for …
my parents . . . raising me in a half-way normal family, moving to Michigan from North Carolina when I was 8 (although I hated them for it at the time), and making it possible for me to get an education.
7. In my darkest hours, I secretly blame … for my dysfunction.
a lack of alcohol and cocaine
(If I just drank more it would all be okay!)...
8. … changed my life forever.
Meeting Spousehole
The lovely Amorous Chick (fka the Amorous Rocker) and the sexiest Troll I ever hope to meet both tagged me for the Six Word Memoir meme. I don't feel like re-typing how it works - just go see Mr. Troll. I wrote a few and posted them in comments on others' blogs, so if these seem familiar, that would be why:
Planned life, took detour, hopelessly lost.
Wife, Mother, Daughter; Searching for . . . Something
I'm not tagging anyone for these, because that's just the mood I'm in. If you want to give them a go, feel free and let me know!
Borrowed from Vixen . . .
1) Where did you begin 2007?
You know, I'm not exactly sure. No, I wasn't THAT drunk. It's just that I don't recall for sure if December 31 2006 to January 1 2007 was spent at my house or my parents. After a while, all the B-O-R-I-N-G NYEs with Spousehole blend together. The closest we ever go to going out on NYE is maybe going to dinner. There's a high-priced Japanese place we went several years in row while my parents watched the child(ren), then returned to my parents' house and played games or something. I think we were at my parents' last year, because I think that was when we taught my nephew to play Uno.
2) What was your status by Valentine’s Day?
Unhappily married, but still faithful. And Spousehole got me a gift!
3) How did you earn your money?
Money? What's that?
4) Did you have to go to the hospital?
Not for me, but Girl was in the ER for a fall from a shopping cart onto the concrete floor at Meijer (she was fine). Boy was in the hospital in September because he was dehydrated from barfing for weeks on end.
5) Did you have any encounters with the police?
Yes.
Oh, did you want an explanation?
Nothing major, actually. My neighbor's house was broken into (they took his good bicycle - he doesn't drive, his digital camera with pictures from 5 weeks in France this summer that he never downloaded, and his good -$2800- guitar. They left his other guitars and bicycles that weren't worth as much. I still suspect friends of his college-age daughter) and we talked with the cops about that. Then we called the cops when a guy was lurking around the same neighbor's house and then claimed to Spousehole that the neighbor hired him to trim the bushes. At 9:30 at night. (The neighbor didn't hire anyone.) Then last month a guy with a crowbar was on our front porch, seemingly trying to decide whether to break the window or a pane on the door to get in. Spousehole called the police after very loudly announcing that he was calling the police. The guy took off running down the street and around the corner. So we had to deal with the police for that.
Plus Spousehole programs the computers and dispatch system for the police and fire departments in our city, so he deals with cops all the time.
6) Where did you go on holiday/travel?
You mean like a vacation? Hahahahahahahaha. That's a good one. LOL
No damn where, really. We went to Boyne Mountain in January for a weekend with a group from church. Spent some time at the cottage up north. Camped one weekend. Went to Metro Detroit a couple times to see Spousehole's family. That was pretty much it. Oh and Spousehole and I went to Six Flags Great America in September.
7) What did you purchase that was over $1000?
Nothing I can think of. We acquired a vehicle, but we didn't pay anything for it (my dad gave it to us).
8) Did you know anybody who got married?
Yes, but no one to whom I was close. I attended a few weddings.
10) Know anyone that passed away?
Yes, but no one with whom I was close.
11) Did you move anywhere?
I wish.
12) What concerts/shows did you go to?
None that I recall.
13) Are you registered to vote?
Yes and I exercised my right and duty to vote in three local elections.
14) Where do you live now?
In a white house with green shutters, a full front porch with rocking chairs, fenced-in backyard, full basement, 3 bedrooms, 1.5 bathrooms, an eat-in kitchen, a formal dining room, a living room, and a walk-up attic. What? That isn't specific enough for you?
15) Describe your birthday:
I turned 40 this year. That actual day wasn't terribly exciting. Spousehole took me and the kids to Olive Garden for dinner (not my first choice, but it was very good). Spousehole did not get me a gift or a card. He didn't even say Happy Birthday. We did go to Six Flags Great America the following weekend, courtesy of his parents. And my family did nice things for me. But Spousehole didn't even hang around while I opened gifts because something on Sci-Fi was just far more interesting than his wife.
But I'm not bitter, no, not at all.
Oh yeah, and my sister-in-law became my new best friend when she gave me a red leather Coach backpack purse. Suh-weet!!
16) What’s one thing you thought you wouldn’t do but did in 2007?
Cheat on my husband.
17) What has been your favorite moment/s?
Cheating on my husband.
No, not really. My little boy starting kindergarten and actually being able to handle regular ed kindergarten when his special ed preschool teachers didn't think that was going to be possible.
My little girl learning to speak better and being a good sharer with kids who are not her brother.
18) What’s something you learned about yourself?
I am not worthless and good-for-nothing no matter how much Spousehole tries to convince me otherwise. I am also not as revoltingly ugly as Spousehole says.
19) Any new additions to your family?
No. The kids are still lobbying for a dog, but that won't happen in 2007.
20) What was your best month?
Maybe June. No one was sick that month.
21) What music will you remember 2007 by?
Daughtry. First they released "It's Not Over" as I was trying to fight for my marriage, then they released "Over You" as I decided to get over Spousehole. I'm not there yet, but getting there.
22) Who has been your best drinking buddy?
Jose Cuervo
23) Made new friends?
Yes, for which I will be forever thankful.
24) Favorite night out?
Out? What is this "out" of which you speak?
Edit: I just re-read my answers and this is depressing! Sheez. It really wasn't all that bad. It could have been much, much worse. I am grateful for what I do have, but you don't really get that from what is written above. I do, I really, truly do, thank God for how fortunate I am overall.
Unconscious Mutterings, the Free Association meme
Unconscious Mutterings, the Free Association meme
I say _________ and you think _________
Play along! Unconscious Mutterings
Unconscious Mutterings, the Free Association meme
I say _________ and you think _________
Play along! Unconscious Mutterings
Unconscious Mutterings, the Free Association meme
I say _________ and you think _________
My pal George has tagged me to tell you about my dreams. Here are the instructions:
'Write five things you want to be when you grow up. Big dreams that seem like folly, but in your heart of hearts are very real and dear to you. Things that maybe you have forgotten about in the ebb and flow and toil of the everyday, but that never really leave your soul. What you would do if anything was possible?'
1. Perpetual student
My ultimate dream would be to be a student for the rest of my life. I have a bachelor's degree in Justice, Morality, and Constitutional Democracy (poli sci/social sci) and a J.D. But I want to continue taking classes in anything and everything; not necessarily toward earning a degree, just for the sake of learning. Everything except math. After calculus, I was done with math. Cooking, anthropology, history, writing, literature, journalism, art, music, psychology, library science, theology - all of it. If I were to win the lotto or something (which isn't likely since I don't play), I would go back to school for the rest of my life.
2. Librarian
I know what you're thinking: what kind of weirdo aspires to be a librarian? I do. I love information - finding it, leading others to it, consuming it. I have very seriously considered going back to school for an MLS. I could specialize in legal research, combining the JD and the MLS.
I love books - they are almost an obsession. But it doesn't stop there. I love research. Digging into old newspapers, microfiche, archived records - it all fascinates me. Libraries aren't just about books anymore. A library is a repository of media of all kinds and I am interested in all of them.
I worked in a specialized library when I was in college (i.e., a small library only accessible to grad students and professors in a particular scientific field). While I didn't know much about the science to which the library was dedicated, I was excellent at helping others find the resources they needed. I loved cataloging new additions to our library and helping our limited pool of patrons. It was way cool.
My parents deal in antiques and have all my life. I suppose researching pieces they purchased and such is how I fell in love with these type of things.
3. Lobbyist/advocate for various causes that motivate me
I'm a decent public speaker and can be very persuasive when I want to be. I think I would be good at this and could possibly do some good. I'm not good at selling material things, but I can sell ideas.
4. Editor
I am really quite good at taking other's words and making them better. I can fix their syntax, correct their spelling and punctuation, find a better word to express a concept, etc. I am much better at that than at writing my own words. I was an editor on the law review when I was in law school and developed an affection for the editing process at that time.
Editing would allow me to exercise my need to correct others and express my perfectionism in a setting where such annoying traits are actually encouraged!
5. Queen of my own little polyamorous household
This is pure fantasy because it could never actually happen. But in the fantasy, I get to be the sole female in household with multiple men, each of whom serves particular needs, since no one man seems to be able to meet them all. In this fantasy world, the men would all get along as friends (and maybe occasional lovers to one another with me present) and none would resent or be jealous of my time spent with the others. None of them would have anyone else outside the household, of course, because this is my fantasy world and in my fantasy everyone's every need is met within our household.
Pure fantasy.
Now I'm supposed to tag five peeps. Hmmm, I'm thinking. Eeny meenie minee mo . . . I choose Trueself, Sandy Shoes, Michelle L, Renee, and The Girl.
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