tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2646772639494369714.post8912699879792663386..comments2023-11-02T11:20:48.716-04:00Comments on Down the Rabbit Hole: Guilt, or Lack Thereof: RevisitedBunnyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12955817346800123054noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2646772639494369714.post-12296158231809394402008-03-11T13:36:00.000-04:002008-03-11T13:36:00.000-04:00I'm so glad I clicked on this link from your post ...I'm so glad I clicked on this link from your post today. <BR/><BR/>Sometimes, we hear something or read something that really hits home.<BR/><BR/>Thanks.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2646772639494369714.post-3849647324177878762007-08-14T13:10:00.000-04:002007-08-14T13:10:00.000-04:00My stones are out just because I live in a glass h...My stones are out just because I live in a glass house. ;)<BR/><BR/>I loved my wife. I wouldn't hurt her. We have two wonderful girls together. We were good together. I choose to break my vow to God because she didn't put out (or even share a bed with me). I thought that my girls should see us happy rather than not. <BR/><BR/>I completely understand the situation and don't know if I could have walked away. I could had to avoid those situations because I couldn't trust myself. Now, I just don't trust my ex.Professor Fatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12785383556743056874noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2646772639494369714.post-9455748123539445692007-07-14T20:52:00.000-04:002007-07-14T20:52:00.000-04:00I am teetering on the same ledge and, honestly, ma...I am teetering on the same ledge and, honestly, making plans to take that next step. It isn't that I don't love my man. It isn't that I want to break up our family. I just have needs that aren't being met. I completely understand your situation and there will be no judging from me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2646772639494369714.post-68851916867625006342007-06-20T10:22:00.000-04:002007-06-20T10:22:00.000-04:00Bunny you have such a lot of love & support here &...Bunny you have such a lot of love & support here & I add mine. Guilt is self-punishment for the gap between what you are/do/think/feel & what an external source leads you to believe you should be/do/think/feel. You perhaps don't have any because you know you acted as your authentic self, with no need for judgement...if we all did that, shrinks would be out of a job. I'm not a religious person but I do live by self-love & forgiveness. I posted a thought about infidelity the same day as yours...It's just another way of looking at 'reality'. Be safe & be happy.sophryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10429367023327263313noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2646772639494369714.post-6422411358722089732007-06-19T22:53:00.000-04:002007-06-19T22:53:00.000-04:00I think the "sin" in this posting is not your acti...I think the "sin" in this posting is not your action - you are a human being, and human beings are sexual animals - we NEED sex. (I know I do) ... <BR/><BR/>The sin is that we've been conditioned by our society and our church to feel pressure in and around our sexuality. Your husband needs to get over his hang ups - and his adultery. Internet porn and whacking off to it is a form of adultery ... he's neglecting you in the process. <BR/><BR/>You need sex with a warm, living breathing responsive person - you want it to be your hubby - BUT ... the problem is his. <BR/><BR/>I would suggest talking to him about your frustrations, or pulling the pin on your marriage and saying to him honestly and openly - "I NEED sex ..." you can remain friends, yet end the marriage and you find what you need, desire and deserve ... <BR/><BR/>I understand why you feel no guilt. I'm in the same place ... I've not found the woman I'd be comfortable having that fling with ... you go girl.<BR/><BR/>God gave us sexuality as a gift - it is celebrated by being enacted ... tell your hubby to stop using his left hand and use you more ... or else !!!<BR/><BR/>p.s. - love the quotation - I'd share his sentiment !!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2646772639494369714.post-38916531080543780002007-06-19T22:22:00.000-04:002007-06-19T22:22:00.000-04:00I'm a pastor ... been there done that ... it is a ...I'm a pastor ... been there done that ... it is a common occurance ... too often churches preach a message that is unrealistic, unhelpful and openly hurtful ... <BR/><BR/>marriages ebb and flow and sometimes wilt and die ... yours in a place where you are unfulfilled ... you are not alone ... hang in there girl.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2646772639494369714.post-49197942832626032392007-06-19T14:57:00.000-04:002007-06-19T14:57:00.000-04:00Wow. That was personal. Moving on to your question...Wow. That was personal. Moving on to your question:<BR/><BR/>1) You don't have to experience pop/psych "feelings" of guilt in order to repent of what you know to be a sin.<BR/><BR/>2) All sin for all time can be wiped clean by Christ's shed blood at Calgary. Including yours. Seek his guidance.<BR/><BR/>3) Think of sin as a rebellion against God and not a betrayal of a human being, your husband. That might put "feelings of guilt" versus the true reason for repentance in a different light. <BR/><BR/>4) King David was one of the biggest sinners ever. He not only committed adultery with Bathsheba, he had her husband killed in an especially cowardly and despicable manner. <BR/><BR/>5) Read one of David's many Psalms of repentance and you'll see that it was God-Focused, not focused on the humans he betrayed.<BR/><BR/>6) I know NOTHING about your husband, the human being. But, as a Christian I do know the Lord Jesus Christ who loves you and wants to forgive you.<BR/><BR/>Hope that helps. You can be forgiven without ever feeling "guilt" but you really should repent. <BR/><BR/>ashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04341805107057968097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2646772639494369714.post-80908101498765825772007-06-19T10:22:00.000-04:002007-06-19T10:22:00.000-04:00No stones here either. I understand, I was married...No stones here either. <BR/>I understand, I was married to someone who had treated me in a similar way.<BR/>Just be careful. :)Dial-Up Princesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14621598456863841538noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2646772639494369714.post-1164653700838537252007-06-19T08:46:00.000-04:002007-06-19T08:46:00.000-04:00No stones here, definitely not. And I too must sa...No stones here, definitely not. And I too must say that I certainly hope He forgives such things or I have nothing.<BR/><BR/>(another Christian, and sinner, and human)Trueselfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04376379968984585345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2646772639494369714.post-89268791700942024992007-06-18T22:04:00.000-04:002007-06-18T22:04:00.000-04:00Any "christian" that claims not to be also a sinne...Any "christian" that claims not to be also a sinner should be stoned first. Its a tough questin you ask really. If he truely had opportunities and turned them down the whats a person to do?<BR/>Anyone who would judge you is a fake and phoney so carry on.<BR/>Be Safe.<BR/>jsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2646772639494369714.post-15687849431440321602007-06-18T13:10:00.000-04:002007-06-18T13:10:00.000-04:00Oh babygrrl, I won't ever judge you or condemn you...Oh babygrrl, I won't ever judge you or condemn you I only beg that you be SO careful for you and for your kids. I would hate to see anyone get hurt... Please stay safe.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2646772639494369714.post-23305936730210777392007-06-18T12:57:00.000-04:002007-06-18T12:57:00.000-04:00Oh sunshine, I could write volumes here but I wont...Oh sunshine, I could write volumes here but I wont. I do think that a loving God would understand why you need to do this. I think being honest in your praying (PRIVATELY) and just telling God where you are at with it all will help with the sense of being ok with it by realizing that you really did what you could and that you are in essence saving your marriage (because ive seen the effects this constant strain can have on a marriage)by meeting a need that needs met. Good luck sunshine.crsehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05938033455038715980noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2646772639494369714.post-36336524672472645512007-06-18T11:58:00.000-04:002007-06-18T11:58:00.000-04:00I have asked myself that question a few times myse...I have asked myself that question a few times myself!! All I can say is...I hope so! :)<BR/><BR/>(I, too, an a Christian......and obviously a sinner. *putting away stones* lol)Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02907925774829898653noreply@blogger.com