Is it a sex blog? A mommy blog? A bitch & moan blog? Um, . . . yeah. This is my place to be totally honest. In my real life, I feel like I'm always lying to somebody about something. Here, I am totally honest. Brutally so. However, no matter what bad things I say about my kids, I adore them and would never ever really, say, sell them on Ebay. The husband, often referred to as Spousehole, is another story. Oh yeah - if you are under 18 (or if you are my husband), please leave now.

Tuesday, March 11, 2008

TMI Tuesday!

1. Is sex hotter for you when it's forbidden? Or do you get wracked with guilt and it's not enjoyable?

Hotter, definitely. I thought I would feel guilty, but not so much. Overall though, for me the "hotness" of it has less to do with being forbidden or not than with the chemistry between my partner and I. I've had technically good sex with all kinds of people, but the really hot sex comes when you've got chemistry, that attraction that takes it to another level. If I had to choose between a partner with excellent technique but only average attraction between us and a partner with amazing chemistry but less technical skill, I'll take the hot chemistry any day. Skills can be learned, chemistry is just there or isn't. (Of course, the chemistry can be lost if he's a clumsy oaf who can't learn, but that's another post . . . )

2. Are casual sexual encounters fulfilling to you? Do you need an emotional commitment from your partner for sex to be fulfilling?

They are sexually fulfilling, if not emotionally. Sex for the sake of sex is fine, if there's an deeper attraction that's great too, but if you can get the trifecta - technically good sex + intense attraction (chemistry) + emotional connection, so much the better!

3. Do you think that with all of the online dating sites that cater to every fetish and desire and places like craigslist that it's more difficult to make a commitment and/or stay committed to your partner?

No, I don't think the availability of those sites makes it less difficult to stay committed. If you go looking on those sites, you've already decided that staying committed isn't working for you. That is, you don't go there if maintaining that commitment is a vital part of your life. I certainly never considered looking at such sites until I had reached the point that my marital commitment was not so important to me anymore.

4. Have you ever joined or participated in an online dating site? If not, would you ever consider it? What about a fetish site, such as

I have profiles on Adult FriendFinder and AFF has worked out nicely for me in the past (PiC!). I just recently joined FetLife (thanks Marcelle!).

5. What is the weirdest fetish you've heard of?

Pony play
is definitely weird.

Bonus (as in optional): The definition of 'fetish' is so vague. Do you think you have a fetish(s)? If so, do you want to share what it is? ;)

To me a fetish is when an individual is sexually aroused by a specific object(s) or usually non-sexual body part and is generally unable to achieve sexual satisfaction without that object being present. So by that definition, no, I don't have a fetish. I can achieve sexual satisfaction without any fetish item or body parts being involved. That said, I do enjoy some things that might not be considered "vanilla,"so I guess I'm more of a kinkster than a fetishist.


G-Man said...

Bunny the Kinkster..?
That has a great ring to it!!
I do love your honesty Baby, have a wonderful day...G

buckeyfan said...

It is very interesting to know that there are other people like you out there! You are a very interesting woman!

Renee said...

Not sure if I've heard of 'pony play'. Do I dare click that link? ;)

I'm not sure how to define fetish. I think your definition is close though.


Vixen said...

Ah, I loved your answers Bunny. :)


Naughty Endevours said...

I think the majority of people are kinky, maybe not so fetishy. I didn't think about that before.

You, my friend, are amazing!

Naughty Endevours said...

I think the majority of people are kinky, maybe not so fetishy. I didn't think about that before.

You, my friend, are amazing!

D said...

kink or fetish, i'll take you any way i can.

great answers to the questions.

Big Kahuna said...

Hi Bunny,

I enjoyed your answers as well.

Pony Play is just odd, but in my opinion so is the whole adult baby thing

she said...

wow the things ya learn over here. i agree about chemistry. it is what makes is is. grrherhahaha

the ponys say neigh! nay!

my fetish would be the sound of someone else running the vaccuum

grrrerhahahaha on eliot spitzer. i guess you would charge at least the rates kristen did. grrherhaha

Amorous Chick said...

Awesome answers! Happy TMI! =)

The Bizza said...

Excellent answers. I especially agree with #1 through 3.

For #4, I also have an AFF account, but my experience there has been less than stellar. Glad it worked out for you though!

I don't even want to know what "Pony Play" is...

Sheen V said...

And Thank You for the invite to FetLife!!

Kiki said...

Happy TMI you Kinky Bunny! Great answers! I read your definition of fetish and totally agree.

exile said...

sometimes, when you don't feel guilty it's because you shouldn't

perhaps you deserve better and you know it

Joe Flirt said...

Great answers all. The definition I found for fetish was a bit different (and less complete) than yours. By the definition I had, what you call kink, others call "fetish", by your definition, I no longer qualify as a fetish-ist.

Happy TMI Tuesday!

Kittie Kate said...

I think I'm also a kinkster and not a fetish by your definition.

I'm not vanilla. I'm more of a bottom and I don't think that's norm.

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